Monday 7 September 2015

Summer's out, school's back

So we had a pretty good summer, some great days out, a few play dates, a fab holiday abroad and a few nights camping, all sprinkled with a small dose of tantrums.  Much the same as last year really.

One thing I did notice with Missy, particularly on our holiday, was how young she can act at times. She went through a phrase of speaking much like a toddler, and seeing her play with friends in the pool, at times she seemed much younger than her 7 years.  On the last day, I had a very interesting chat with a lady around the pool who is a primary school teacher, the only person to whom I talked about adoption. She had noticed that Missy was always clocking what the other kids were doing, where they were, who they were talking to and at times how she would be exceptionally clingy with some children.  

I really like that Missy has a lot more confidence at her age than I did (I was very shy) and she is great at making friends, but this area of friendships does also appear to be one where Missy can stumble a little or make inappropriate choices. It's probably the main area that school pick up on so we'll see how she fairs in this new school year.

Talking of school, Missy has been back three days.  She wasn't too worried about going back, in fact she was really looking forward to it.  I really didn't see any sign of anxiety.  Her teacher is brand new and hadn't heard of attachment disorder (!) so I'm going to give her a week or so to settle down (Missy and teacher!) and then ask to meet with the teacher.  This afternoon the anxiety appeared after school when Missy had a huge meltdown and I found it hard to remain therapeutic.  As I type, four hours later, I'm still a little unsettled.
I'm not looking forward to the winter.  The pattern now is that winter brings with it more deregulation.

In other news, I had sedation last week for an endoscopy.  Wow!  If only I could have sedation every night. I was out like a light!




2 comments:

  1. So glad you had a good summer. It's good when we can see patterns of behaviour in our children. Katie does a lot of toddler speak too. I'll be honest and say it drives me nuts at times. I hope things have settled again after tantrum-gate. As I type we're building up to one here so I'm just bracing myself for what's ahead. We can only be therapeutic as much as we're able. We're only human and sometimes I think children, even ours, need to know there are limits to our tolerance. That can actually be therapeutic as well. Sending love to you. You're doing a grand job. Good luck initiating your new teacher lol x

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  2. I always look forward to reading your blog. The long summer holidays are over and I am back to work as a teacher. It was lovely looking after Alice (2, mine) and Nicola (2, Ella's) but I cannot afford not to work.
    http://livingworldsedge.blogspot.co.uk/2015/09/kristine-and-alex-still-former-foster.html

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